What Is Bullying?

Bullying can be divided into two main categories verbal and physical. With the physical category there are many degrees of bullying and it can take many forms from simple jostling, pushing and shoving , practical jokes, to a full blooded physical assault the list goes on.

The other major form of bullying is verbal this includes emotional taunting [name calling] threats this type of bullying is probably more insidious because most of it takes place anonymously over the social media outlets like face book mobile phones the internet etc, verbal intimidation [always accompanied with a threat of violence].

The reasons behind bullying are many and varied but at its heart bullies are threatened by differences in others, which they are unable or to accept. Bullies know that what they do or say is wrong and how hurtful their actions can be to their victims.

Most bullies don't understand or care about the feelings of others. All bullies are looking for attention. They might think bullying is a way to be popular or to get what they want. Most bullies are trying to make themselves feel more important. When they pick on someone else, it can make them feel big and powerful.

Most if not all bullies come from family backgrounds where there is a lot anger and hostility. They have seen violence and intimidation get the perpetrator what they want and may be merely copying that behaviour. They may think that being angry, calling names, and pushing people around is a normal way to act.  Some have been bullied themselves, this is no excuse but it may help you understand a little better. Before you can solve a problem you first must understand it.

Bullies often pick on someone they think they can have power over. They might pick on kids who get upset easily or who have trouble sticking up for themselves. Getting a big reaction out of someone can make bullies feel like they have the power they want. Sometimes bullies pick on someone who is smarter than they are or different from them in some way. Sometimes bullies just pick on a kid for no reason at all.

In all this there is a common theme. Most kids that are harassed and bullied have trouble protecting themselves and have self esteem or self confidence issues.

Self confidence is everything.

If a child has the knowledge and skills to know that any form of attack can and will be repelled their self confidence goes up and then the bullying has little or no effect. Once the bully sees that their aggressive behaviour is having no effect the bullying stops.

To that end passivePOWER can offer an answer, we have created a course that is conducted over an eight hour period and teaches how to firstly passively avoid problem situations and if that fails what to do if it comes to blows [there are no retaliatory kicks or punches in this system] we teach how to defuse violent outbursts and contain the aggressor or simple walk away. To augment this course we have written 2 books that deal directly with the problem.

Book 1 [Secrets for Stopping Bullying for Kids {Secret Signs}] deals with Awareness what personality traits are common with victims of bullying and suggests ways to change them and Verbal Conflict Management.

Book 2 [Secrets for Stopping Bullying for Kids {Secret Solutions}] shows a range of practical measures to control aggressive behaviour, through non violent passive means.

The key message throughout both of these books is confidence is key when you are confident in your own ability bullying seems to go away.

For more information please read our "Secrets for Stopping Bullying" ebooks.
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