Stop Bullying in High Schools

There is no easy way to stop bullying in high schools. One approach is to create a change in the bullies home life.
Bullies seem to come from homes where excessive physical punishment is used and children have been taught that physical violence is the way to handle problems and “get their way.”

Bullies usually also come from homes where the parents fight a lot, so violence has been modelled for them.
Parental involvement often is lacking in bullies’ lives and there seems to be little warmth.
Most if not all bullies come from families where the parents were probably bullied themselves at some stage in their lives.
Most bullies have self esteem and anger issues and find that belittling and harassing others make them feel better.

Early intervention and effective discipline and boundaries at home truly is the best way to stop bullying.
Some things however can be done at the school level. Most school programs have a limited impact on bullying because of the constraints that are placed on teachers and councillors and many schools have little or no recourse than to expel the trouble maker or transfer them to another school.

A good way for teachers and staff to get a handle on what’s going on in the playground and beyond is to hand out questionnaires to all students and discuss if bullying is occurring.
Define exactly what constitutes bullying at school.
The questionnaire is a wonderful tool that allows the school to see how widespread bullying is and what forms it is taking.
It is a good way to start to address the problem.

Get the children’s parents involved in a bullying program.
If parents of the bullies and the victims are not aware of what is going on at school, then the whole bullying program will not be effective.

Stopping bullying in school takes teamwork and concentrated effort on everyone’s part. Bullying also should be discussed during parent-teacher conferences and P&C meetings. Parental awareness is key.

In the classroom setting, all teachers should work with the students on bullying.
Let the students know what resources are available to them if they are being bullied, make sure that the victim/s of bullying can speak to someone in authority about what is happening to them.
The lines of communication must be keep open, bullying looses it much of it’s effectiveness when it is presented to the light of day.
Sometimes even the teacher can feel as though they are being bullied in the classroom and a program should be set up so the teachers themselves can implement strategies to eliminate bullying.
Children understand modelling behaviours and role-play and acting out bullying situations is a very effective tool.
Have students role-play a bullying situation.

All students and their parents should be made aware of rules of conduct whilst they are attending school including travel to and from as well as what is acceptable via electronic media.  Any behaviours that are considered bullying should be clearly posted.

Schools also could ask local mental health professionals to speak to students about bullying behaviours and how it directly affects the victims.

Schools need to make sure there is enough adult supervision at school to lessen and prevent bullying.

A child who has to endure bullying usually suffers from low self-esteem and their ability to learn and be successful at school is dramatically lessened. Schools and parents must educate children about bullying behaviours; it will help all children feel safe and secure at school. Children who bully need to be taught empathy for others’ feelings in order to change their behaviours and the school must adopt a zero-tolerance policy regarding bullying.

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