Bullying at Schools

Bullying at schools has become a major issue world wide it seems there is always something on the news about bullying at schools causing problems.

Bullying especially bullying at school is always about power and control. Mainly it involves the bully’s perception of other people. Bullies are basically cowards and are threatened by differences in others, which they are unable or unwilling to accept. These can be racial in nature, religious, someone’s mental or physical disability or just because someone looks, dresses, sounds different from them. It can even go as far as bullying because of the people or organisations their intended victim is associated with. It doesn’t have to make logical sense to us as long as it’s about the bully having power and control it does to them.

Before we go much further it would be appropriate to first define what a bully and bullying are. The Oxford dictionary defines bully (the noun) as a person using strength or influence to harm someone weaker than themselves. Bullying (the verb) as someone using strength or influence to intimidate someone to do something they want.

As we’ve said before bullies for the most part are cowards and they will only attack people they perceive as weaker than themselves that does not just mean physically.

For bullying to be successful, there must be fear that the threat will be carried out.  (You will be ‘beaten up’ – secrets may be exposed [rumours spread] - someone you love may be threatened ...etc...). It can be at school, on the street, over social media.

Bullying nearly always starts small but left unchecked will escalate in severity as the bully’s feels he or she is able to get away with more extreme actions.

Once bullying starts the first thing that seems to happen is the victim's self esteem suffers and when self esteem drops self confidence drops.

Most bullies use your lack of confidence, which is brought about by your fears against you.

However, if you have enough knowledge and skills to defend against such an attack, the bullying has no effect. It’s the same for emotional bullying {spreading rumours at school/over the internet} if I’m confident in myself there can be no emotional damage. This does not mean that you accept this type of behaviour report such incidents to someone in authority.

Confidence is everything.

If bullying is a problem PassivePOWER can offer a solution; we conduct one day workshops that deal directly with anti social aggressive behavior such as bullying and offer information and solutions as to how to avoid and if absolutely necessary how to passively defend against physical attacks. One of the greatest benefits from these workshops is the increased confidence levels that participants obtain when the fear factor is removed. Once the bully is aware that his attacks can and will be repelled it is highly unlikely that an attack will occur in the first place.

As well as these one day workshops we have available 2 books that deal with the bullying problem.

Book 1[Secrets for Stopping Bullying for Kids {Secret Signs}] deal with Awareness in your surrounding and personal traits common with victims of bullying and suggests ways to change them. Also we deal with Verbal Conflict and it’s Management. But if the situation deteriorates into a more physical problem that’s where book 2 comes into play.

Book 2 [Secrets for Stopping Bullying for Kids {Secret Solutions}] shows a range of practical measures to control aggressive behavior, through non violent passive means. The principles of EVADE and ESCAPE or BLOCK and CONTROL come into play. To expand on these EVADE is easy don’t put yourself at risk avoid areas where you know physical violence is more likely to occur, ESCAPE is also as the name implies if you find yourself in a threatening situation we give you the skills to defuse the situation and walk away by teaching how to defend against grab assaults including head locks and strangles without retaliation. BLOCK, simply put is how to defend against strikes kicks and punches without striking back by using the last principle CONTROL. By being able to deflect or stop a kick strike or punch and then place the aggressor in some form of physical restraint the threat is neutralized and puts you in control.

The overriding message throughout is self-confidence. When you are confident in your own ability everything changes.

For more information please read our "Secrets for Stopping Bullying" ebooks.
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